If you want to build a ship, dont drum up the people to gather wood, divide the work, and give orders. Instead, teach them to yearn for the vast endless sea.
– Antoine De Saint-Exupery
Something to think about here for businesses, organisations, churches…
Would you look at the state of this…
The picture is Stormzy. Not Lukaku. They maybe look a little alike but really?
Remember that time the dumbass guy on TV thought Samuel L Jackson was Laurence Fishburne. Yea. That.
And this kind of thing happens all the time. Locally, globally. Low profile. High profile.
Journalists, editors, print teams. They really do suck these days.
Nobody is perfect. I’ve made mistakes that ended up being printed. I get it.
But I feel like this is unacceptable.
What we in the West define as the true self is actually patterns of continuous responses to people and the world; patterns that have built up over time. For example, you might think, I’m just the kind of person who gets annoyed easily. On the contrary, it’s more likely that you have become the kind of person who gets irritated over minor things because of how you’ve interacted with people for a years. But that’s not because you are, in fact, such a person. By being loyal to a “true self,” you ended up concretising destructive emotional habits.
– The Path – A new way to think about every thing by Professor Michael Puett & Christine Gross-Loh.
Image credit: Matt Writtle
If you want good results, you have to support people. You don’t get the best out of anyone by making them feel insecure or nervous. Ultimately, that way of treating people is only about control. If you make someone feel nervous, you’ve got them. But in my view, you’ve got them in the wrong way. You’ve got them in a state of anxiety.
– Source .
The above quote is from an Interview with long-serving Vogue fashion director Lucinda Chambers who was recently fired.
The 26-year-old, who last sent out a tweet on 30 June, says just one mean comment could ruin his entire day.
He told The Sun: “I’ve actually come off Twitter completely. I can’t read it.
“I got on it and there’s nothing but people saying mean things. Twitter’s a platform for that. One comment ruins your day. But that’s why I’ve come off it.
“The head f
uck for me has been trying to work out why people dislike me so much.”
If you follow me or read our blog you’ll probably know that I quit Twitter in April. Here’s the blog post explaining it.
Ed’s account will now only be used to automatically send his Instagram posts. I have pondered doing something like this in the future. Maybe.
Here’s the thing though. I don’t like Ed Sheeran. When I say I don’t like him, I’m referring to his music. That should be obvious right? It’s just not my thing. What I don’t understand is, the leap from not being a fan to being abusive to the guy online.
I’ve not really missed Twitter. For selfish reasons I miss how it pushes people toward content. That’s been fascinating to assess since April. However, when stories like this one about Ed Sheeran break, I’m reminded that it was – at times – an awful factory of foul negativity.
That part I definitely do not miss. I don’t need it. Ed Sheeran definitely doesn’t need it either.
We had new windows and exterior doors fitted this week.
When we spoke to someone about a quote, they came when they said they would.
We agreed a price.
They had to come back and measure up the windows. They came when they said they would.
They said the job would be completed before the end of June. It has.
The price didn’t change. A deposit meant the work could start.
It took the workmen two days to complete the job. They said it would take two days.
They said they wouldn’t disrupt my awkwardly positioned broadband/phone cable. They didn’t.
They said they would leave everything really tidy. They did.
We get used to unreliable so much that this kind of impeccable experience can be a bit of a surprise.
Because people often don’t say what they mean. They make promises they can’t keep. Say things they have no intention of carrying out. Vague. Sketchy. Unplanned. Lack of clarity.
And many of us blame busyness.
The guys fitting our windows are super busy though. Doing actual hard physical work. I heard them take phone calls about other work. I heard them planning the rest of the week. I heard them planning next month. They are busy. But they did everything they said they would. They were clear. Intentional. Prepared. Organised. They showed up on time. Did a fabulous job.
I feel kind of daft for writing this post but for every one of these experiences, we often have to wrestle with nine other “busy” people faffing about at being nothing more than a big let down. Reliable and trustworthy people are a beautiful thing. They are worth celebrating.
These are the kinds of people you want to work with and recommend.
Our windows were fitted by S Dooey & Co.
June has been wet. Hot. Dry. Stormy. A bit confused.
This playlist played in order – I think – reflects the first 21 days of June.
A bit confused.
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